tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620829963842569724.post215162241235502600..comments2020-01-16T06:11:35.308-06:00Comments on I'll never stop talking about personal finance: x and money -- let's talk about the second thingdinarikhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11318616380006983183noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620829963842569724.post-69727552825082954672013-11-18T20:54:53.013-06:002013-11-18T20:54:53.013-06:00Just because I responded to something and said you...Just because I responded to something and said you were ignorant doesn't mean I am offended, not everyone can agree with every statement on this blog =P. You still do not explain why you find video games a waste of time. You have zero defense for your statement and no rebuttal as to why you dislike them. I am not asking for an extreme feeling I am asking for an explanation and just because you don’t like them is a very poor one. I read and I play videogames extensively, so I can have an educated opinion on both of them. I can tell you there are plenty of benefits video games offer over reading and visa versa. <br />Let me maybe use terms you can understand, you know how you should diversify your investments? You should also diversify how you receive inputs of information. Reading is one way, watching television is another, and videos games are also another option. Not giving videogames a chance is only hurting your knowledge investments. I’d still love to hear your reasoning if you are willing to explain ;).<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07532432544653906302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620829963842569724.post-5551903637564096442013-11-18T18:53:26.269-06:002013-11-18T18:53:26.269-06:00Hmm, I like your take on spending money on your pa...Hmm, I like your take on spending money on your partner and not keeping score -- I think what I've found is the best things you can give are not monetary (time, attention, love, assurance) but I definitely think the right attitude is where you focus on how happy you are to give, rather than keeping score and pursuing some twisted version of 'equality'.<br /><br />As far as video games are concerned, you make some great points. I hope you can see that what I'm saying is that I think video games are (to me) a waste of time, not that I think people who play them are stupid. And for me, reading books is the equivalent of Sebastien's video games (ie, something entertaining to do to de-stress, alone time) so I view the benefits of video games relative to reading as net negative, because that's what I'd be doing instead, and I think reading is a better use of my time than playing video games. Obviously that's not true for others -- which is why I made it a personal statement. I think it's fair to say that I dislike video games -- but I'm not trying to keep anyone from playing the, either -- they don't take up enough space in my head to merit more extreme feelings. So I hope what I said didn't offend you, in addition to sounding very ignorant ;)dinarikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11318616380006983183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620829963842569724.post-33509553063739933092013-11-18T18:30:22.415-06:002013-11-18T18:30:22.415-06:00Thanks for the comment (just saw it now) -- and I ...Thanks for the comment (just saw it now) -- and I loved the email :)dinarikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11318616380006983183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620829963842569724.post-59805831367043501482013-10-28T12:10:27.770-06:002013-10-28T12:10:27.770-06:00A financial arrangement is a very rigid term, when...A financial arrangement is a very rigid term, when it is basically just the understanding of: who is the person I am with? It is obvious that how someone deals with is also how they deal with their own wants and needs. In your example Sebastian was looking for the best solution to the problem, he is an engineer after all, and the most efficient and logical solution was the right one for the person that he cared about as long as it falls into a reasonable expense.<br /><br />It is very easy to identify if you know a person based on their spending and the resulting outcomes. For example, if a person gets gifts for a bunch of people you may consider them very giving and willing to spend money on the ones that they love but it could be because of deep seeded wanting to be wanted or like by the people around them. The reason is just as important as the action in this case. <br /><br />Anyways back to the point, a financial happy place? I do not think there is one, how people spend their money could be very variable depending on how their personality changes and if you are with someone who stays exactly the same for a long period of time, they I guess you could assume their spending would be the same, but hopefully life brings more excitement! <br /><br />I’d say the best policy is to spend money on the other person and not expect them to "pay you back", if you with a person you should be with them because you trust their judgment, or just you trust them. If you want a one sided relationship so be it if you have a problem with that then talk it through, to each their own, I don't think there is a right way to approach this. As I said before spending money is just an extension of ones wants and desires, there is no wrong personality.<br /><br />Sara and I just pay for whatever, no real thought or regard, it’s just how we are and it is mirrored by our spending. Isn't much to extrapolate from that.<br /><br />Side note: Video games are far from pointless.<br /><br />Many games such as Real-Time Strategy games, DOTA, and history based strategy games offer large amount of benefits just to name a few. Personally I believe any game offers some value to the player.<br /><br />- From an entertainment standpoint, it offers so much more of an immersed experience. <br /><br />- From an education standpoint, it make it so interactive and fun that you forget that you are actually learning something, it make it so natural. <br /><br />- From a social standpoint there isn't any other kind of experience out there where you can just be put together with random people which have different personalities and you have to do a group activity for a common goal. <br /><br />- From a problem solving standpoint, getting a group of random people together and meeting an objective is very hard, lots of collaboration and communication skills needed. <br /><br />- From a skill standpoint, you must master the game and add benefits to your team and when you are unskilled it shows you in real-time and you can make adjustments and learn from your mistakes and if you master the game you now know what steps to take to master something else in life. <br /><br />- From a leadership standpoint, in a team everyone needs a leader, you can take the role and understand what is needed for the team and make it happen you get to learn in real-time what to do in hard times and easy times and how critical decisions can cause failure.<br /><br />There are so many more…<br /><br />Basically I can only respond to that comment as saying, it is very ignorant.<br /><br />Gaming is the way of the future and it is here to stay, from entertainment to military it is widely used and growing each year. The military uses 'games' to train their solders and pilots which save their lives from accidents. South Korea’s official sport is a video game, e-sports grow each year and it will one day, probably near the end of our lifetime, be just as popular as any sports you see on the tele today. <br /><br />If you don't like it that’s another story, and it totally chill to have a negative view of video games but you should understand it enough to see the merit and sophistication of it.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07532432544653906302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620829963842569724.post-1858785481748049602013-10-23T12:42:30.030-06:002013-10-23T12:42:30.030-06:00Hey Dinka,
I'm now motivated to finish my e-m...Hey Dinka, <br />I'm now motivated to finish my e-mail to you that I started in April :) <br /><br />However back to above: financial arrangements - I agree with "equilibrium involving both individuals taking care of themselves and not needing to take the other up on any extravagant offers." - as long as we (as in in my relationship) talk about limits for certain things and come to a mutual agreement about patterns of spending, it's OK because in the long run, even if the spending is skewed heavily even over a couple of months-years, it'll balance out eventually - be it in absolute numbers or in other ways (details in my e-mail - tell me what you think!). <br /><br />I also agree "equality" is a very complicated subject. I'd never do anything financially that'd make my boyfriend uncomfortable - buying an expensive car just because and being in debt....<br /><br />keep posting!<br />Rikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15682439013555898893noreply@blogger.com